Q&A with Prof. DeRose

Last week I trans­lat­ed Prof. DeRose doing a class to busi­ness stu­dents and some of the ques­tions that came up were real­ly inter­est­ing. So what I thought I would do this week is try to answer some of them para­phras­ing DeRose and using some of my own thoughts. 

How can a leader influence or convince his team?

I loved DeRose’s answer to this! His take was real­ly inter­est­ing, first, we should not be try­ing to con­vince peo­ple of any­thing, either they will do it of their own will because they under­stand and want to do some­thing, or they won’t. So con­vinc­ing is not an effec­tive way to deal with people. 

Influ­enc­ing, how­ev­er, is some­thing we do all the time. My words on this post are influ­enc­ing you of some­thing. Your smile or frown, your choice of words, etc. Be aware that you are influ­enc­ing the world through your exis­tence. The exam­ple you give through­out your life is high­ly influ­en­tial! Don’t squan­der it!

This brings a sec­ondary ques­tion: what should I be influ­enc­ing peo­ple towards? In our point of view the DeRose Method is a great start­ing point. The con­cepts we teach, the lifestyle we live, the atti­tudes we rec­om­mend…. but the prin­ci­ple behind them can be sum­ma­rized very sim­ply as treat­ing oth­ers how you would like to be treat­ed yourself. 

How can we deal with failure? How can we manage when we tried everything and still had no success?

This first ques­tion Prof DeRose had time to answer and it was the ques­tion I asked — hehhehe. 

His response real­ly res­onates with me, his point of view can be summed up in one of his most enlight­ened quotes: “Obsta­cles and dif­fi­cul­ties are part of life. Life is the art of over­com­ing them.” In a sense, fail­ures are lessons that we need to take to heart and improve on. Even the fail­ures that seem most cost­ly are still teach­ing us what our lim­its may be, what our unknowns were and giv­ing us the skillset to man­age this process and suc­ceed tomorrow. 

While the feel­ing of an unsat­is­fac­to­ry out­come may not be great nev­er lose sight that at the tail end there are lessons and you are com­ing out stronger, wis­er, bet­ter pre­pared. In the long run what do you want? Do you want to dwell on what could have been or to con­tin­ue to strive for what you dream?