How to always deliver your best

It is real­ly easy to say that no mat­ter what is going on in your life you should be doing your best, you should be per­form­ing at your peak. But it is not always easy, not every day is sun­ny, not every morn­ing you wake up inspired…. It is also all too easy to blame oth­er things and not to make an effort to do bet­ter because things are heavy at the moment…

Per­son­al­ly, I am going through a very unique peri­od and so I thought it would be inter­est­ing to share what I learned. 

As most of you know I am a DeRose Method teacher and I have been so since 2008!

But before that I worked in Mar­ket Research, where I spent almost all of my career. It has been 15 years, maybe a lit­tle more. 

I bit more than I could chew

The year of 2012 was a year of MANY big deci­sions, I decid­ed to quit my then job (which did not hap­pen until much lat­er!), then there was a deci­sion to move coun­tries, start a new busi­ness, start a fam­i­ly… all at the same time… This was may (or may not) have been more than I could han­dle… The busi­ness is still going strong in NYC, I have an amaz­ing and incred­i­ble son named after one of my favorite movies. But I had to leave the US and I am at a place where I am teach­ing and look­ing for oppor­tu­ni­ties in mar­ket research so I can repair the costs of the deci­sions of 2012. 

It is a strange moment: I lost my chil­dren…. I am in a dif­fer­ent coun­try to my busi­ness and school as well as my son. Things sure­ly could be eas­i­er. Yet, at the same time I feel an enor­mous pride with­in me that I feel such strong pas­sion and com­mit­ment to my dreams. 

Late­ly I have re-con­nect­ed with so many of my dear friends and they have been incred­i­ble com­pa­ny and sup­port and the pur­vey­ors of invalu­able insights. 

But today I woke up think­ing that I need­ed to share some­thing impor­tant: how am I still going?

There are at least three things are keep­ing me very focused and allow­ing me to crawl through the mud of dif­fi­cult times:

  1. One of the key char­ac­ter­is­tics of my per­son­al­i­ty is obstinance. 
  2. I have been train­ing for almost 2 decades to be able to keep sight of what makes me hap­py and to be able to see it clear­ly even in the dark­est of days.
  3. I know what makes me hap­py, what ful­fills me and there­fore, how I can con­tribute to our world. 

So let me dive a lit­tle into each one of these factors. 


I am as stubborn as a mule

Since I was a small boy my par­ents (espe­cial­ly my mum) were very keen to stim­u­late my stub­born­ness. When­ev­er I want­ed some­thing real­ly bad and I stuck stead­fast to it, in the end I got it. It may have tak­en ages to get to the end, but it hap­pened. Through­out my life this has been the case. Hang on, push, hold, keep at it… WHAM! There it is. While this was dis­played from an ear­ly age, my par­ents re-inforced this behav­ior by giv­ing me atten­tion when I exhib­it­ed this trait, there­fore, cement­ing it as one of my key characteristics. 

This trait has been invalu­able in my life and I feel strong­ly that all that I have, and all that I am, can be traced back to the influ­ence of being adamant, head­strong, will­ful, per­sis­tent, res­olute and just plain pigheaded!

Yet over the years I hope I have learned to tem­per this with an abil­i­ty to learn and focus this char­ac­ter­is­tic where it is most like­ly to get me clos­er to what makes me whole. 

KEY TAKE OUT: The abil­i­ty to know your per­son­al char­ac­ter­is­tics and to edu­cate them to be applied where you will ben­e­fit the most is fun­da­men­tal to success.


I have the training

Above all else, the DeRose Method has trained me. It has shaped me. It has giv­en me the ener­gy and the means to be able to cope with every­thing that has been thrown my way. This is why I teach it. This Method has taught me who I am and pos­si­bly what is the pur­pose of my life. 

KEY TAKE OUT: The DeRose Method may not be for you… If you already prac­tice and want to check if it is for you, send me a mes­sage and I will be hap­py to talk about what I have learned and if this is work­ing for you. If you nev­er tried it… well, reach out to me and let’s rem­e­dy that!


What makes me happy

I am a teacher at heart. I love to help peo­ple by giv­ing them the con­di­tions to reach insights about them­selves and life. I love to ques­tion, to chal­lenge, to make peo­ple think and feel, to guide indi­vid­u­als so that they can reach bet­ter con­clu­sions. Often times I have no idea what the answer to some­thing may be, but in my life I have devel­oped and fall­en in love with the skill of being able to sup­port indi­vid­u­als to have the tools to answer for themselves. 

This is why I thrived in mar­ket research, which is all about find­ing answers and shar­ing those so that oth­ers can use the infor­ma­tion for their needs. 

This is why I thrive as a DeRose Method teacher. 

When I say one phrase, when I ask one ques­tion, and I can see my student’s eyes light up from with­in… that moment extends my lifes­pan. This moment makes me who I am. Ulti­mate­ly I have to say that this is as close to the pur­pose of my life as I know as of today. 

KEY TAKE OUT: When you live what you love there is no bad weath­er, there are no obsta­cles. If you are not sure about yours, reach out and lets talk!